Today guest writer Jory Micah shares some of her personal story. “I had a realization. As a woman in ministry I could accept ‘my place”‘ or I could dust the dirt off my shoulders, and do my own thing. I left my safe church job and gave up having a salary. My husband, who has always been very supportive of me as a minister, was scared. He wanted me to stay put in my safe church job. He wanted to see me succeed. I submitted to him for two years and I am glad I did, because those two years are my most valuable ministry experience. But, when God told me to go, I could no longer submit to my husband’s mixture of wisdom and fear. I had “holy rebellion” in my blood and Jesus was saying, ‘It’s time to fly, girl’.”
“And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything” (Eph. 5:21-24).
I grew up in a household that I believe functioned properly. Of course, things were not perfect, but they were good. All of my friends hung out at my house and considered my parents their spiritual parents. My parents didn’t pretend that my dad was always in charge and they didn’t take the scriptures above to mean that my mother obtained salvation through my father. I believe these Bible verses have been blown way out of proportion. Firstly, we often leave out the verse that starts this passage, “And further, submit to one another out of reverence to Christ.” Secondly, historical and biblical context is often ignored. And thirdly, these verses have been taken way too literally.
Women who stand up for mutual authority are often demonized in Christian sub-culture as those rebellious types who want to find a way not to have to submit to anybody. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Submission is a key aspect within Christian thought. It is an expression of love and its purpose is accountability. It is crucial that we all learn to submit, sometimes even when we don’t agree with our leadership.