Recently, the phenomenon of “locker room talk” among men about women has made national headlines. This has kick-started a new wave of awareness about the pervasiveness of sexual assault against women. All this has provided an occasion for me, and I am sure many other women, to relive a moment when a stranger grabbed me in exactly the way described in this “locker room talk.” I was twelve and walking with my Mom and older sister. As a group of older teenage boys walked by, one of them pretended to bump into my shoulder and as he did, he grabbed me between the legs—not an accidental brush but a deliberate, unmistakable grab. My mother and sister had no idea and we just kept walking. I was too stunned to respond. But I had already learned that this was the kind of thing boys do.
We believe authority is at the heart of much marriage misunderstanding and debate. Over the years traditional-hierarchical-complementarian marriage-view proponents have described their perceived authority to us in different ways.
VARIATIONS ON A THEME
Some husbands have told us that as the leader they have a 51 percent role in making decisions and the wife has 49 percent. As we listen to these men explain their marriage, we can’t help but wonder, “How is a 51/49 functional authority any different from a husband who has 99 percent authority and a wife who has 1 percent?” Either way, the husband has final authority to make decisions.
How does one best care for marginalized people, those who have been isolated from community, stigmatized by society, and even neglected or wounded by the Church? This question has dwelt within my soul. It has inspired me to study the Bible in deeper, more focused ways. It led me to seminary and while there, it lingered on. It led to me taking courses which explored issues of individual and social brokenness that bred marginality and isolation. I asked hard questions within these courses, inquires which could not be pacified by the prototypical Sunday school responses. I read, researched, and wrote on these issue, all in a diligent pursuit to answer this one question.
Along the way, I had a few revelatory moments, but I also became intrigued by a biblical character who I believe personifies everything I was wrestling with, the nameless Canaanite woman of Matthew 15: 21-28.
In honor of Father’s Day being celebrated this weekend, we are delighted to share this heart-felt post by Brandon Chase. This letter is a great reminder of the important part egalitarian fathers play in the lives of their daughters.
To my precious Daughters,
From before you were born, I have dreamed of you.
Would you be a boy, or a girl? What color hair would you have? Eyes? What would your name be? What would my heart feel when I held your tiny body and beheld your miracle face?
What would your life become? What would you do? Where would you go? What mark on the world would you have?
These are the dreams of the daddies-to-be. These are my dreams of you… and more.
Submission in marriage often comes with lots of negative baggage. In fact, many people refer to submission as the “S”-word. The reality is that there are only a few Bible texts that focus on submission in marriage.
Headship can often become a divisive issue in marriage discussions—especially in religious circles. Various “infallible” headship interpretations and accompanying dialogue could fill a library. Our experience is that people will endlessly argue the original Greek and Hebrew, lexicons, grammar roots, verb tenses, hermeneutical and eschatological anthropomorphisms, and endless jots and tittles until Jesus Christ returns.
As we saw in the previous post, a recent article by Matt Walsh argued that feminism is unnecessary for Christians. Today I want to examine the second objection that Walsh raised (with the understanding that I am picking on his article because it represents a widely-held view among many Christians). His second question is equally […]
A recent article warned Christian women (and men, in parentheses) that “Feminism Is Not Your Friend” and addressed a twofold question: Do Christians need to identify as feminist, and should they, given feminists’ supposedly anti-Christian baggage? This is a question many Christians on both sides of the aisle are asking. (For those who don’t know, […]
In the short time since its release, Sarah Bessey’s little yellow book with the provocative title, “Jesus Feminist,” (Howard) has started a lively discussion among evangelicals, some praising it as unique contribution in the gender debate, and others dismissing it as “nothing new under the sun.”
NOAH! If ever a film had the Christian population talking, this would be it. Media and movie makers project the zeitgeist of their generation, and Noah is no exception. The movie touches on several hot topics: environmental disasters, gender issues, un-human beings, even the Bible gets a bit of exposure. Not too much, but some.
I never thought I’d write a blog about gender—or McDonald’s for that matter. I love McDonald’s, but not enough to write about it. I’m all for gender equality, but I’ve never really had any reason to add my voice to the conversation. Yet here I am, writing about them in the same piece. A few […]
When my friend Melissa asked the discussion question, I wanted to shrink into the floor. “What do you need to confess?” she said. There was a long silence while we all considered our answer.
When I was asked to write a short piece about my experiences as a dig director my first thought was – would they have asked a male dig director to write such a piece?
My concern today is how to construct a new future for women around the world through the global outreach of the church. This is a crossover moment in history. This is the moment when history discovered women.
Trigger Alert: The poem featured today is about the tragic consequences of domestic violence. November 25 is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women. The Junia Project stands with the victims of abuse, and we proclaim that violence against women is never acceptable, either inside or outside of marriage. To recognize this […]